It has been said that it is usually one of two forces that motivate & drive us – fear or love.  Both are equally powerful & have the capacity to outweigh the other.  The choice is ours.

Fear can protect us, but is that always in our best interest?  Love is clearly the goal, but is that always possible in this human experience of ours.

And then, of course, we can throw in judgement for good measure.  We are told that on a road to enlightenment we are to release judgement of self & others, yet we live in a world that is consumed by judgement & where we are constantly bombarded with how we are “meant” to be living; what we are “meant” to be doing & who we are “meant” to be.  But I wonder whose standards are we meant to meet?  Businesses who want us to buy their product or service are seeking our compliance with their self-interest.  Our politicians want us to agree with their particular stances; it seems challenging to get unbiased reporting in our media these days & our family & friends all have expectations of what is & isn’t appropriate.

So how do we know what is our true sense of self, of what is right for us as individuals both on an individual & community based journey?

Well, that requires some commitment on our part.  We need to truly want to connect with ourselves & sometimes that takes courage.  For sometimes in looking at our hearts we realise that there are things we want to change.  That doesn’t mean that we reject those parts of us, in fact we need to accept all the parts of ourselves if we are to truly love ourselves – as challenging as that may seem.  It means acknowledging all of the parts that make the whole & then choosing what we want that person, that life, to look like.

We can look at experiences that have shaped us through the eyes of a victim & ask “Why me?” or we can look at these experiences & give thanks for the opportunity to grow.  We can then look at future similar events/circumstances through the eyes of love & not fear.  Fear keeps us from growing.

I have lived both the road of fear & the road of love, & I know for certain that the road of love is much more pleasurable!!  The road of love does not live in denial; it truly sees all, it just chooses to have a different focus.  The road of love allows you to forgive all involved for the highest good of all involved & the harm of none because that is an easier path.  It does not get caught up in seeking revenge for it knows that any pleasure gained is very short lived.

The road of love knows that it is not the place the judge others, but to accept that we all have different challenges, life lessons & life journeys to experience from which we will hopefully grow.  In that sense, the road of love can be challenging because of how this human environment operates.  But it is also in this place that true peace can be found.  If there is no judgement, there is no anger, there is no frustration, there is no sadness, there is no disappointment; there is just acceptance.

And what of injustices, I hear you ask?  Define an injustice…the natural disaster that acts as the catalyst for mass outpourings of compassion?  The sexual abuse perpetrated on a child when that child goes on to have strength that they would otherwise not have had?  The abduction & murder of a child that is the catalyst for his parents to create an organisation that creates awareness of child safety for others?  Animals that are not treated humanely for the benefit of humans?  I believe that we have multiple lives in multiple forms & these experiences can form part of the lessons we wish to experience & learn.  There are global shifts happening & awakening that we can treat animals differently.  There are countless other “injustices”, but perception is completely required in these scenarios.  Would it be easier for the good to come out of these situations in easier & less painful ways?  Absolutely.  But we seem in this human experience to require contrast & catalysts to prompt our consciousness.

Of course, there is judgement & perception in this writing & even in my healing work with clients there is also judgement that they could benefit from doing this exercise etc.

So how does one release judgement & come from love & not fear?

For me, it is about connecting in with my higher self, my angels & guides.  Sometimes that requires disconnection from the “real” world.  That can mean turning of the TV, the computer.  It can mean time spent in solitude in nature & then trusting & acting on the guidance that I receive.  It means focusing on love as much as possible in my consciousness until it is just unconsciously there.  It means being aware of times when I do judge & then not judging myself for it!! Lol  Just acknowledging the awareness & then releasing it & coming back to focus on love.  It being aware that we are all on individual journeys & that it is not my place to say to another what is right for them.

It is about holding the intention that all I say & do is for the highest good of all concerned & the harm of none & then saying what is my truth & doing what makes me feel happy, peaceful, loving.

In my work, that means I listen to what my clients say they want, suggest ways that they could possibly achieve that goal without attachment & then it is up to my client what they do or do not do.  It is after all, their life.

Do I get it right all the time?  Hell no!!  This is absolutely a progressive journey & one that requires constant commitment & dedication.  But it is a journey I will continue with as being in love is a much more pleasant space in which to live.  I seek a life that is peaceful; that is filled with happiness; that minimises pain; that allows me to freely give to myself & others the very best of me.

Peace & Angel blessings, Sharon