My Mum is on her end journey, she is dying. There, I’ve said it out loud. I have shared it with some people in my life, but had not made it public until Mum was ready for it to be so. I’ve known for a little while. Apart from hearing the medical stuff, it’s one of those times where being psychic is a double edged sword.
It’s now about respecting Mum, her choices & her journey. It’s about saying the things you need & want to say and doing the things you need & want to do. Most of the time I am at peace with her journey & that it’s coming to an end…and then the daughter in me kicks in & the next thing I know I am in a flood of tears.
The reality hit me the other day, that of my older, blood female relatives with whom I am close, Mum is the last. That’s it. My Gran, my sister, Mum’s identical twin and now Mum – will all be gone. Family means a lot to me & that realisation hit me like a tonne of bricks.
Thankfully, as a medium, I can still have contact with them all, but it’s not the same as holding them phsyically in my arms; as sitting down & having a cuppa with them; as holding each others’ hands… Mum has agreed to stalk me – seriously hoping I don’t come to regret that agreement!! lol
Then there is all the practical stuff that needs to be taken care of & arranged – you know, those things you don’t want to have to think about, but will be easier while she is still here. What wording for the newspaper notices, what she wants to happen with stuff not in the will etc
That book title of mine is seriously going to haunt me all the days of my life, but this journey truly is about ‘accepting with grace’. It’s about honouring Mum. It’s about being able to give & receive something so massively precious that money could never buy. It’s about honouring my needs as a daughter, along with what I see as my responsibilities. It’s about ensuring this process is handled with as much dignity, grace, love, compassion & honour as is possible. It’s about ensuring that the journey is as smooth & easy for Mum as we can make it.
It’s also about grieving; it’s about allowing it to unfold & to be fully present for not just Mum & I, but other family members, too. And sometimes, it just plain sucks!!
I am thankful that this will not be a protracted journey of suffering for Mum; I am so appreciative of her amazing friends that have done so much for her; I am thankful for the most wonderful hubby in the world who just holds me & makes it possible for me to do whatever I need to do; I am thankful for other family & friends who just demonstrate unending love & support & I am thankful for my angels & guides who create other blessings along the way.
My friends, none of us know exactly when those close to us will transition. Sometimes, like with my Mum, we are given the opportunity to do & say what needs to be. But other times, we are not given that gift. I ask all of you to ensure that the special people in your life know just how much they mean to you – don’t assume, make sure they understand. One of the things that separates us from most other species is our desire to connect with others for purposes other than pro-creation. Don’t squander those opportunities. The gift that is the depth & intimacy of true connection with others is one like no other. Treasure in giving & receiving my friends.
Peace & Angel blessings, Sharon